Flow Rituals

I know I desire a slow form of living this year. So that I can notice more and pay tribute to more and let myself flow.

I’m learning what slows me and delights me. Quietude. Sometimes writing my way through noisy storms in my mind. Some times just sitting, watching, breathing.

I want to pause more I guess. When I’m enjoying something I want to stretch it out. Make it last, collect and keep a piece of its essence for fuel.

Ways to keep my flow:

Brain dump lists

Being outside

Candle light in darkness

Dancing

Folding laundry

Gratitude lists

Posture and breath practices

Push ups

Slow sex

Sweet savored sips or bites

Water breaks

Yoga

Ps. Do you have stay in the flow rituals? Please share.

Giving is giving. And I made this for you!

Hi!

I made this virtual present for you… Its a list of some of my most favorite things, tools, resources, and inspiration from this year. If you feel the urge to share some of yours, I’m so down for that. We could create a new favorite things tradition! We could change each other’s lives! 

So here it is: 

Ashwagandha – An Ayurvedic herb AKA Indian Ginseng. Its an Adaptogen supplement that promotes & supports vitality, strength, sleep, Adrenal health, calming the mind & combating stress. I put a half tsp in my coffee every morning it’s also good in warm milk and honey a few hours before bed. 

Bullet Journaling – A simple analog method for organizing ideas, task lists, and everything else. I’ve created one of these each quarter of the year. Everything from my monthly calendars to journal entries are in one composition book making it easy to keep track of and use as a record and writing companion. If you like designing your own planners you might love this method too.  

Blue Lotus Chai – I’m a chai drinking machine in the winter and this spiced black tea is the perfect afternoon pick-me-up. It’s just so yummy with some vanilla creamer or eggnog.

Alison Armstrong’s Celebrating Partnership workshop recording on Audible. A’s work has changed all my relationships this year not just with my partner but with my children and friends and coworkers and everyone! I am so grateful for her passion and insight. 

Dr. Teals – Epsom salt and essential oil-infused body wash and massage oil. So goood! Give yourself a soak or massage with this stuff and you’ll be feeling like your own BFF full of gratitude and self-love.

This song Everlasting Light by the Black Keys.  

Hoopla Digital Library – I live off this free app. You can barrow free audiobooks, movies, and ebooks by setting up a free account with your library card and downloading the app on your mobile device.

This song Let Myself Flow by The Avener. The Avener Pandora station is now my go to when I am craving bass beats and chill vibes.  

Manifestation Maps – a list/meditative practice that clarifies and leads you towards your deepest desires.

Wins Celebration – This year I added a new ritual to my monthly calendar. Around the time of the new moon, I gather with a friend to share and celebrate a list of wins from the previous cycle. 

All the Love in the Universe, 

Kenzie

Ps. I hope one or more of these things is like a gift to you. Please feel free to share yours in the comments! It’ll be like a virtual New Years’ party!

What are Your Wins?

A couple of friends and I recently added a Wins Celebration Day to our monthly calendars. Around the time of the new moon we gather, have dinner, and share with each other our wins from the previous cycle. We talk about blocks we overcame, goals we reached, things we are working toward. We discuss the Universal magic, miracles, and unexpected awesomeness that were sprinkled into our most recent cycle.

The win celebration is a ritual of acknowledgment, accountability, and appreciation. We lavish ourselves in luscious endorphins and empowering antidotes, we feel supported and supporting, we make note of recent growth and excitement of the future growth that embodies the energy of a new moon and the end/beginning of a cycle.

Ps. Please feel free to share your Wins from the last moon cycle in the comments. We can celebrate together here!

The 5 B’s of Doingness

 

#1 Beginning- I have to admit it is kind of intimidating staring at the blinking curser as it prods almost intrusively at my skill and ability to write. I just dive in. It seems characteristic of me, like jumping off the roof when I was 12, into the make shift snow mound.  Now, just like then, a second of uncertainty is less uncomfortable than the thought of standing there feeling frozen and unsure.  When I try to stay in one place and think it over patiently and rationally, I often just talk myself out of things.  I’d rather just take a chance and see what happens then spend too much time second guessing myself. I’m not afraid of mistakes.  I am afraid of feeling stuck.  So here I am.  I’ve begun to write. I’ve already gotten through a paragraph and it all seems relevant and thought provoking, which is after all what I was going for when I sat down to write my first piece for potential publication.

#2 Baby steps- I’ve never done this kind of writing but I’ve always wanted to.  “Well,” I think to myself “anyone who’s done anything has never done it before at one point.” This thought is very reassuring to me and so I press on.  I have found that whenever I do anything new or exciting, whether it is life changing like a move to a new place, a break up, or perhaps less serious like deciding to take a class or start an exercise routine, it’s best to just take it one tiny step at a time and not get all hung up on the final project.  I adhere to the saying  “Progress not perfection.”  Most of the time nothing turns out the way you thought it would anyway, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t turn out wonderful.  The fun part is often getting there and the little-by-little-stuff can be just as exciting as the final step into your original pursuit.

#3 Breaks- I stop writing and go to the store with my honey, due to late night BBQ cravings (an excuse to be outside and around the fire really).  All along I’m writing this in my head as we browse the isles at Fred Meyer’s for short ribs and salad dressing. Then I stop. “Wait, this is nice. I should enjoy this”, I think to myself as I grab my honey’s hand.  Sometimes we forget to take breaks when we are excited about doing something for the first time. I often get over involved forgetting to travel back to the surface of reality, for a breath of fresh air or a warm moment of clarity.  A deep breath is waiting for me here, between all my nerve and ambition, the sound of crackling embers or the plot of my four year old daughter’s day spilling out in broken words and infectious laughter.  When I step back into the project later I may have something more to bring with me than if I had just stayed and obsessed.

#4 But-what-if’s- I look over what I’ve already done. I start to get anxious and self-critical and then I stop myself and remember that mistakes are also great teachers.  It’s not enough to start something if I’m not going to give it my all. Sure it’s true not all things are meant to be, but if you don’t try your best and do everything you can to make it work you will never know.  I guess that brings me back to the “doing-ness” factor.  In the first place, it is tough sometimes to just get out there and do the stuff you’ve always wanted to do.  Whether it’s starting something or ending something. I don’t know exactly what makes it so difficult. Maybe it’s a case of relentless what-if’s rooted in our fears of failure and disappointment?  All I know is I’d rather be disappointed than disenchanted any day!

#5 Balls – I believe we should do the things we want to do even if others warn us not to. Isn’t that what all the greatest do-ers and revolutionists in history have done?  We are ordinary people but we can do extraordinary things and lead extraordinary lives, just by indulging our simplest dreams and want-to’s.   So I am doing this. Writing a column is one of the many things I’ve always wanted to do and I appreciate you being a part of it. I bid you all a good week full of opportunity, change and mistakes to urge your quests to do stuff.