There’s this story.

Underneath every thought I have,
every breath,
just waiting,
restlessly, passionately
to be real.
It’s gripping.
Keeps trying to hold me.
And kiss me.
And give me pleasure.
And security.
So there.
I said it.
It’s like this story’s got
a mind of its own
but the same soul as me.
It’s like a lie tho right now
at this point…
Because the story doesn’t match
what’s really going on.
Or does it?!
Maybe it’s not on the surface yet
that’s all.
It could be tracking me tho.
Maybe it’s creeping on me
So that when it comes knocking
at my door
I know it’s face.
And I answer with some recognition.
I open that door wide and say
Come in, I knew you’d be here.

5 Ways to Enjoy a Red Light

The world is in such a hurry these days.  In a society running on Starbucks and work deadlines it is tough sometimes not to get caught up in the “go, go, go” of every-day-life.  I think that red lights have been the bad guys for too long.  I think red lights and stop signs and traffic jams all deserve a second thought. And that thought is this: Is it really so bad to pause every once in a while?  Is it just awful to have a second to think, to reflect, or to slow down long enough to notice the extraordinary sunset sweeping across the sky?  Don’t you ever find yourself wishing you could just escape for a minute?  Here is what red lights have been trying to tell us for nearly a century now and five ways to fully appreciate their potential.

Number 1:  Take in the stillness. Take a second and look around and feel the world rush past you.  Be a part of the trees or the buildings, the things that are being still, and appreciate life from their perspective. The masters have always told us to go with the flow, but that doesn’t mean lose yourself in it. You deserve to have moments all your own. Be your own flow. Take a deep breath… and then Go.

Number 2:  Be grateful.  It always feels good to remember all the things we are thankful for, especially if we are having a bad day or stressing out.  You can’t help but stop at a red light (well legally), so even if you are in the biggest hurry of them all, whatever it may be you have permission from traffic laws everywhere to slow down and take a breather.  Take advantage of it, relax, name a few reasons you are happy to be doing what you are doing, even if it’s the fact that you are not doing something way worse like suffering genocide in Africa… Think about what you enjoy about your life and what you are fortunate to have.

Number 3: Be friendly.  Notice the people around you.  Smile at a stranger.  Study your fellow beings.  Barge into their lives a little and let them know they are not alone.  Making someone smile is a simple gesture that often takes you further than you could ever imagine.  ” I don’t even know you, I don’t know what you do for a living or what church you go to or whether you’re a Stealers fan or not, but I’m going to smile at you.”  How could that not feel awesome?

Number 4:  Quiet your mind.  This can be extremely rejuvenating and enlightening.  I call it minute meditation.  I’m sure we can all relate to streaming and unyielding thinking marathons that just never seem to stop and yet never seem to get us anywhere. You’re just thinking about nothing and everything at the same time and maybe you feel like you wish you could just turn your brain off.  Your favorite song is on the radio and you can’t even enjoy it ’cause it’s so loud between your ears.  This is when you stop and simply think to yourself “I wonder what my next thought will be?…” (The only way to know if it works is to try it) But I would not suggest doing this while driving, which is why red lights are wonderful!

Number 5:  Red lights are the perfect time to do those little things you should do and always forget to, like you’re Kegel exercises! This is not a joke. Doing your Kegel exercises strengthen the PC muscles, help in treating urinary incontinence and increasing sexual gratification. This is a good exercise for both men and women. And depending on your sex and age may have many other helpful benefits.

So, instead of being impatient and stressed or bored and stuck with nothing to do but read the bumper stickers on the car in front of you. You now have five productive mind, body and soul enriching techniques to practice at your next red light.

Enjoy and rejoice because red lights are part of your life too!